In All Honesty…

In all honesty what do I really know about Global Developmental Delay? Not much.

Aside from reading a few materials online and listening to my son’s child psychiatrist, I hold no expertise.

Yet, I’m still here willing to write a little bit about my experiences. Why?

Because being a parent of a child with GDD is tough, tiring, and a basket of disappointment.

While I can’t blame my kid of his condition, I often blame myself for a lot of things. Is it in my DNA? Did we allow him to watch and play too much?

I often feel like a failure when I look at my child. But all these feelings are all for nothing because it will not help him.

Though I’m a fairly negative person, I want to remain optimistic on this one. It’s my child, simple as that.

Regardless of whether he recovers or not, I love him and will support him until my last breath.

His Little Brother

Damian is Tim’s little brother. This one seems to be a “normal” kid developmentally speaking.

Just two years old, and here I am feeling guilty again. I’ve been so focused on Tim that I’m neglecting Damian.

Not on purpose I’m sure.

But I seem to have a shorter fuse when dealing with him.

Truth is, Damian really pushes a few of my buttons. He’s really loud, he hits us, he plays with his milk. You know, what a regular kid usually does. But I can’t seem to give him slack like I do Tim.

Maybe in my narrow little head, I feel like he can understand, though, of course, he can’t.

I need to be better with Damian. I admit that I favor Tim over him for now. But that’s because Tim really needs help.

Damian also needs our help and guidance. I want to be a better father to both my kids. I love them both, but again, I’m only human.

Their Super Mum

My kids are lucky they have a mom like her.

She does everything in the house and she works as a full time social media manager, team leader, and writer.

I’m very lucky to have her by my side. She makes everything easier.

She is the heart and soul of this family.

While I have my head up in the clouds dreaming of investing, Internet Marketing, creating an authority site, she works her butt off into the night to fulfill her duties while the kids are sleeping.

She is a conscientious and hard working employee. Truly an inspiration to every home worker.

I just wish that I can pull my head out of my ass long enough to provide better for her and this family.

She gave up taking the bar this year to really focus on Tim and his therapy.

She basically gave up her dream of becoming a lawyer.

I just wish that I can put into words how much I appreciate her. Then again, if my fuse was short with Damian, it is even shorter with her.

My actions toward her and Damian is a reflection of my true character as a person. I’m volatile, easy to anger, and so very hard to please.

I realize this in introspect. I really do. And I want to be a better father, husband, and person.

If wishes were horses.

But no, everyone of us has flaws. Mine just stick out like a sore thumb. At least, that’s my perception of it all.

 

The Ups and Downs of Parenting My Son

Timothy is a wonderful child. He is 4 years old but delayed. He actually is not too far off when compared to his 2 year old brother.

The ups this week is that we are having a little bit of progress when it comes to exercising and accomplishing tasks. In addition, my sons had the time of their lives when we went to the park yesterday.

The down is that Tim seems to be getting violent tantrums. It started about 2 to 3 weeks ago. Like, when he doesn’t get what he wants, he throws stuff, or stomps his feet, or deliberately hits his head on the floor. He also tends to punch and kick both of us in not just one instance.

This is starting to bother us because time out doesn’t seem to be working. The increase of violent behavior seems to have started when we subtracted tablets out of his daily activity. This is just my hypothesis but it seems plausible, right?

I mean, take away something that has become a habit then the energy of the kid goes somewhere else?

We’ve really been suffering a little bit with his increase violent tendencies. It is even more distressing that he is willing to hurt us and himself to get what he wants.

Discipline of a Child

What we’ve learned in the parenting seminar is the ABC.

A – Antecendent
B – Behavior
C – Consequence

For example, Tim asks for milk. He does so by crying and stomping his feet. If we give him milk then we encourage this behavior.

Simply put, Tim will think that crying and stomping his feet, as a behavior, will always yield him the milk as a consequence.

The thing that we can do when he is crying and stomping his feet is:

  • Ignore him to teach him that bad behavior will merit nothing
  • Praise the correct behavior
  • Punish the child for the behavior (we try to avoid light spanking as much as possible)

We try and will continue to try all the right tools to discipline Tim. We are only human so we can’t be expected to have the patience of Buddha.

Parenting is a firefight every minute. More so if your child has GDD.

We must continue with the uphill battle even if we are not even sure that we will win the fight.

How to Parent Kids with Global Developmental Delay (GDD) [Infographic]

Global developmental delay (GDD) is a condition that many people are not aware of, thus making it difficult to get resources to help families.

Many parents are left in the dark as to how they can help their kids with global developmental delay (GDD). We hope this simple infographic can help you get an idea on creating a structure for your child’s learning and development.

Take note that each child is different. There may be situations when you need to have extensive help. Give your child the help that he needs to cope, but most importantly give him your time.

We also love to hear your ideas. Do share in the comments below how you are helping your child with gdd everyday.

Global Developmental Delay (GDD) – Parenting Kids with GDD

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Parenting is Not a Bed of Roses All the Time

Some info before I go into this rant/jokey post: Nydia and I work from home as Virtual Assistants.

People can say what they want.

But people who doesn’t have kids will never understand what it’s like to take care of a little child.

Why parents can’t be as socially active. Why parents seem to be focused at home and not work. Why parents don’t seem to hustle more. Why parents just can’t work overtime all the time.

Being a parent of a small child is a bane to social activities.

Some of our single friends don’t seem to get it in their heads.

What more if you have two kids and one of them has GDD?

Parenting (not just) a Developmentally Delayed Child

We end the day at about 12pm. With hardly any me time or any time to be really bonding as husband and wife.

We wake up at around 2am because the little one is crying asking for milk.

We try to sleep but my wife and I will be interrupted again at 4am or 5am because our oldest will already be awake.

Awake and literally jumping on top of us.

This time we are fully awake but groggy as hell. The two kids are now pulling us outside to play ball or just run around the backyard until about 6am-7am where we have breakfast.

Ah, breakfast.

Another challenge because our oldest will run around, dodging the spoon, if he doesn’t feel like eating that day.

My wife needs to login to her work by 8am. Same with me. Throw that out the window when one of them poops or demands play time.

We take this time to wash their baby bottles, pick up their toys, do some housekeeping.

By 10am we have an hour work done, if we are lucky.

We then shower with the kids. The oldest one prefers to shower with me.

By 11am-12pm, the kids will probably be sleeping (if we can pull them out of the bathroom) for a couple of hours.

We sleep with them, because, damn, that’s the only real sleep we get.

1pm, we eat lunch.

2pm-5pm, the two are awake and running around the backyard again. Hopefully their grandparents are around to look after them.

There are times when they run around unsupervised and get into all sorts of accidents. I mean blood on their head and all over their shirts kind of accidents.

6pm-7pm, we eat dinner. Ah, dinner. This is essentially a repeat of breakfast.

8pm, both of us are exhausted and ready to turn in. Guess what?

We can’t.

Both of them are still awake until 10pm or 11pm. Depends really on how exhausted they are.

We are lucky if they sleep by 9pm or 10pm.

And the Cycle Repeats the Next Day

I have to point out that we are living in a third world country.

It’s not like in Hollywood movies where we can just leave our kids in day care or something similar.

Their grandparents are generous enough to lend us a hand. But this is a limited resource and should never be abused.

Well, I hope you single guys and gals who have no kids can understand the answer to all the why’s above.

And please quit bothering us. Lol. We are taking care of sentient creatures here.

How to Play Videogames with Developmentally Delayed Kids

My wife and I are both gamers.

When we had our first child, we were quite happy just thinking how good it will be to have all the family having the same hobby and playing video games together or against each other.

While the thought excited us, we never anticipated that our son will turn out to be developmentally delayed. Growing up, we were both ahead when it comes to mental development. My wife was always ahead of her class and I wasn’t lagging behind either.

When we learned that our son had Global Developmental Delay (GDD) with Speech Disorder, we were scared that he won’t be able to cope up.

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