Handling Anger Issues if You Have a Speech Delayed Kid

People with a short temper will find it very hard to take care of a speech delayed kid. No matter how much positive self talk you do, you’ll always end up frustrated with your kid at some point.

Unfortunately if you have a short temper, you need to resolve your own issues first. Counting from 1 to 100 will not help you in this case.

Seriously consider enrolling in an anger management program. There is no trick to this.

Shouting at your kid won’t do any good. Anger will only create a wall between you and your kid, too.

If you don’t have any access to any anger management programs in your area, then the only way is to distance yourself from your kid from time-to-time. You can do this by hiring a baby sitter once or twice a week. I know that this is easy to do in developed countries.

For people in developing countries, this is where your relationship with your family gets tested. You can ask your relatives to take care of your kid for an hour or so a week while you try to recharge and cool down.

There really is no substitute for your own therapy to help yourself be a better person. But you need to do it even if you just don’t have the time, money, and inclination for therapy.

When it comes to our kids, everything that will help us improve will also help them improve.

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5 Month Update on Tim’s Therapy

The improvements are nothing spectacular. But we’ll take whatever we can.

For 5 months, we have been paying thousands of pesos just for Tim’s treatment. The improvement is basically a rapid fire of gibberish and then 1 or 2 real words out from him.

He’s still struggling to express himself in words. The few words he knows is not yet enough to hold a conversation. Although, his attention is so much better than before.

We’ll be meeting his doctor this September. I think therapy will still continue. But I’m guessing that his doctor will mix in medication.

Because frankly, time is running out.

What is Speech Delay?

Language and speech delay affects 5% to 10% of pre-school kids.

Unfortunately, my son is affected by this disorder which is part of Global Developmental Delay (GDD).

My son, Timothy is now 4 years old, and will be 5 years old in a few months. He’s still unable to string a complete sentence spontaneously.

Clearly, this is the most obvious sign of language delay.

So What is Speech Delay?

Speech delay is essentially language development going in the right order, but the problem is, it is very slow.

Two-year-old’s should be able to say 2 words or more. When Tim was 2, he was pretty much silent.

The problem with language delay is that you can’t tell if your kid has developmental problems, or just a late bloomer.

It’s better that we have Tim on therapy. At least, even if he is just a late bloomer, his language skill will be developed further.

That said, I’m not really confident that my son is a late bloomer. I think he has difficulty sequencing words into coherent sentences on his own.

Doctors are Cautious

I’m a little frustrated that Tim’s doctor is not really giving us any detailed information about his condition.

The thing is, you can’t blame the doctors. They are cautious to jump to conclusions.

It’s already very tough to diagnose and tell parents that their child is suffering from GDD.

There is really nothing more we can do but train Tim to speak everyday, and through therapy.

5 Simple but Effective Tips for Speech and Language Development

Parents like us feel euphoric hearing our child speak their first words. We document them, we post them on social media, and we tell our friends.

We also feel anxious when we don’t see them reaching that milestone. Some of us are in denial telling ourselves that they are just delayed. They can keep up eventually. A common mistake that can cause our child’s speech development.

Others parents will immediately take action and have their children checked by a speech pathologist/therapist.

Of course, most first time parents wouldn’t know what to do. We just make assumptions. It’s a hit or miss.

If you see your child not developing according to standard speech and language milestones, it wouldn’t hurt to have them checked.

While waiting though, it’s good to have some basics to help our child go through the process.

Here are a few tips to help your child’s speech and language development.

1. Learn to use the language that your child is familiar with. Avoid the use of mixed languages.

You should learn to keep your points and sentences simple, clear and straight to the point. Say one thing at a time.

2. Make use of body languages like gestures. Point at the things that you want them to know.

A great example is to make animated gestures like passing the book and saying that you are passing the book. Hold a spoon a spoon and say that you are holding a spoon. Explain what is it for while showing it to your child.

3. Learn what interests your child most or what they love doing and make use of them to drive their attention. You can use that as the point of conversation.

If your child loves cars, play with them but explain in a subtle manner movements and actions using the toy i.e. the car is moving up the hill, etc.

4. Let your child interact with others, by working or playing alongside other kids.

Interaction with other kids can do wonders. Kids imitate other kids. Of course, it’s necessary to be there to advise a kid whether what he is imitating is good or not.

5. When your child starts speaking, invest on children’s book.

Read with your child. Teach him or her how to read and how to say letters and sounds properly.

What else can we do to help our child with speech delay?

As parents, the best thing to do is to educate ourselves. Read books and other informational materials on speech and language development. Or have you kids checked by developmental pediatrician or speech pathologists or therapist if you see first signs of this condition.

Do you know any other tips to help your child’s speech and language development? We love to hear your thoughts.

5 Ways to Enhance Attention Span to Aid in Your Child’s Speech Development

We know how important focus or attention is. Attention is needed in order for a child to learn.

We don’t need our child’s developmental pediatrician to tell us that. But sometimes it is important to hear it again.

My goal for this article is to give practical tips and tricks to help develop your child’s attention span without the aid of medication.

Attention Disorder Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) affects between 1.5 and 3.5 million school-age children in the U.S., or an estimated 5% of all boys and 2% of all girls. Why ADHD affects more boys than girls is a mystery at this point. Up to 60% of these children will continue to have symptoms into adulthood. According to the National Institutes of Health, more than a million children take prescription medicines to control hyperactive behavior. The estimated cost to schools is about 3 billion dollars.

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The Best Books on Speech Development for Language Delayed Kids

When we notice something different with our kids, our first inclination as parents is to search for information about our kids’ health. We research. We ask other people especially friends. Or we consult with medical specialists.

That said, information gathering as our first tool should yield reliable results. If you are searching online about medical conditions or solutions to help your kid, especially if the child has special needs, you have to be very meticulous and selective. There are many content online that adds to the noise rather than serve as a valuable piece of information.

That said, we have gathered a few books on speech and language that can help kids with special needs. These book reviews about speech and language development is for informational purposes only. Every kid is different. What works for us might not work for you.

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Is it Speech Delay? When Should Your Child Start Articulating

In our effort to help our son learn to communicate, we have gone through so many researches and all sorts of materials on speech and communication. One interesting topic that caught my attention is Articulation Development.

There are children more advance than others and can say a few words at 6 months.

There are those who learn to speak and articulate according to standard progression.

There are those who are late but can catch up later on.

There are those who don’t progress or have stopped progressing at all.

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How We are Trying to Correct our Kid’s Speech Delay

As I’ve mentioned before, our son, Timothy has been diagnosed with GDD with speech delay.

His logic is that of a two-year-old. That makes it very hard to teach him any meaningful skills.

A while ago I found an article called Global Developmental Delay is Uncurable [sic].

It’s a curious headline because Tim’s doctor specifically said that there are sufferers of GDD that have indeed recovered.

At first, I don’t know what is the author’s agenda. Maybe that headline was just click bait.

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Best Toys for Your Kid’s Speech Development

Global Developmental Delay or GDD can be detected late in your kid’s life. One symptom that you will recognize right away is speech delay.

In our child’s case, he is still not able to have short conversations at the age of 4. Although the doctor has not given us a specific condition, she is seeing our kid under the ADHD spectrum.

Since his attention span is shorter than normal, it is very hard to teach him some skills fit for his age. One of them is telling exactly what he wants.

He is about to start with speech therapy soon. While waiting, we have asked for advice from experts so we can encourage him to talk. One advice we got was to talk to him using assistive technology or developmental toys.

So without further ado, here are some of the best toys to help your kid’s speech development.

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Top Toys to Improve Your Kid’s Fine Motor Skills

Global Developmental Delay is not just about speech defect in kids. There are instances when children have trouble with their fine motor skills.

This means they have weak fingers. Sometimes, it’s weak or uncontrollable muscles that will make it hard for the kid to grip pencils properly.

This becomes a problem when your kid needs to learn writing.

That said, there are toys to help your kid strengthen their wee little fingers. Here are some of the best that I have found.

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