Handling Anger Issues if You Have a Speech Delayed Kid

People with a short temper will find it very hard to take care of a speech delayed kid. No matter how much positive self talk you do, you’ll always end up frustrated with your kid at some point.

Unfortunately if you have a short temper, you need to resolve your own issues first. Counting from 1 to 100 will not help you in this case.

Seriously consider enrolling in an anger management program. There is no trick to this.

Shouting at your kid won’t do any good. Anger will only create a wall between you and your kid, too.

If you don’t have any access to any anger management programs in your area, then the only way is to distance yourself from your kid from time-to-time. You can do this by hiring a baby sitter once or twice a week. I know that this is easy to do in developed countries.

For people in developing countries, this is where your relationship with your family gets tested. You can ask your relatives to take care of your kid for an hour or so a week while you try to recharge and cool down.

There really is no substitute for your own therapy to help yourself be a better person. But you need to do it even if you just don’t have the time, money, and inclination for therapy.

When it comes to our kids, everything that will help us improve will also help them improve.

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5 Month Update on Tim’s Therapy

The improvements are nothing spectacular. But we’ll take whatever we can.

For 5 months, we have been paying thousands of pesos just for Tim’s treatment. The improvement is basically a rapid fire of gibberish and then 1 or 2 real words out from him.

He’s still struggling to express himself in words. The few words he knows is not yet enough to hold a conversation. Although, his attention is so much better than before.

We’ll be meeting his doctor this September. I think therapy will still continue. But I’m guessing that his doctor will mix in medication.

Because frankly, time is running out.

What is Speech Delay?

Language and speech delay affects 5% to 10% of pre-school kids.

Unfortunately, my son is affected by this disorder which is part of Global Developmental Delay (GDD).

My son, Timothy is now 4 years old, and will be 5 years old in a few months. He’s still unable to string a complete sentence spontaneously.

Clearly, this is the most obvious sign of language delay.

So What is Speech Delay?

Speech delay is essentially language development going in the right order, but the problem is, it is very slow.

Two-year-old’s should be able to say 2 words or more. When Tim was 2, he was pretty much silent.

The problem with language delay is that you can’t tell if your kid has developmental problems, or just a late bloomer.

It’s better that we have Tim on therapy. At least, even if he is just a late bloomer, his language skill will be developed further.

That said, I’m not really confident that my son is a late bloomer. I think he has difficulty sequencing words into coherent sentences on his own.

Doctors are Cautious

I’m a little frustrated that Tim’s doctor is not really giving us any detailed information about his condition.

The thing is, you can’t blame the doctors. They are cautious to jump to conclusions.

It’s already very tough to diagnose and tell parents that their child is suffering from GDD.

There is really nothing more we can do but train Tim to speak everyday, and through therapy.

5 Ways to Enhance Attention Span to Aid in Your Child’s Speech Development

We know how important focus or attention is. Attention is needed in order for a child to learn.

We don’t need our child’s developmental pediatrician to tell us that. But sometimes it is important to hear it again.

My goal for this article is to give practical tips and tricks to help develop your child’s attention span without the aid of medication.

Attention Disorder Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) affects between 1.5 and 3.5 million school-age children in the U.S., or an estimated 5% of all boys and 2% of all girls. Why ADHD affects more boys than girls is a mystery at this point. Up to 60% of these children will continue to have symptoms into adulthood. According to the National Institutes of Health, more than a million children take prescription medicines to control hyperactive behavior. The estimated cost to schools is about 3 billion dollars.

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The Best Books on Speech Development for Language Delayed Kids

When we notice something different with our kids, our first inclination as parents is to search for information about our kids’ health. We research. We ask other people especially friends. Or we consult with medical specialists.

That said, information gathering as our first tool should yield reliable results. If you are searching online about medical conditions or solutions to help your kid, especially if the child has special needs, you have to be very meticulous and selective. There are many content online that adds to the noise rather than serve as a valuable piece of information.

That said, we have gathered a few books on speech and language that can help kids with special needs. These book reviews about speech and language development is for informational purposes only. Every kid is different. What works for us might not work for you.

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How We are Trying to Correct our Kid’s Speech Delay

As I’ve mentioned before, our son, Timothy has been diagnosed with GDD with speech delay.

His logic is that of a two-year-old. That makes it very hard to teach him any meaningful skills.

A while ago I found an article called Global Developmental Delay is Uncurable [sic].

It’s a curious headline because Tim’s doctor specifically said that there are sufferers of GDD that have indeed recovered.

At first, I don’t know what is the author’s agenda. Maybe that headline was just click bait.

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Best Toys for Your Kid’s Speech Development

Global Developmental Delay or GDD can be detected late in your kid’s life. One symptom that you will recognize right away is speech delay.

In our child’s case, he is still not able to have short conversations at the age of 4. Although the doctor has not given us a specific condition, she is seeing our kid under the ADHD spectrum.

Since his attention span is shorter than normal, it is very hard to teach him some skills fit for his age. One of them is telling exactly what he wants.

He is about to start with speech therapy soon. While waiting, we have asked for advice from experts so we can encourage him to talk. One advice we got was to talk to him using assistive technology or developmental toys.

So without further ado, here are some of the best toys to help your kid’s speech development.

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Top Toys to Improve Your Kid’s Fine Motor Skills

Global Developmental Delay is not just about speech defect in kids. There are instances when children have trouble with their fine motor skills.

This means they have weak fingers. Sometimes, it’s weak or uncontrollable muscles that will make it hard for the kid to grip pencils properly.

This becomes a problem when your kid needs to learn writing.

That said, there are toys to help your kid strengthen their wee little fingers. Here are some of the best that I have found.

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In All Honesty…

In all honesty what do I really know about Global Developmental Delay? Not much.

Aside from reading a few materials online and listening to my son’s child psychiatrist, I hold no expertise.

Yet, I’m still here willing to write a little bit about my experiences. Why?

Because being a parent of a child with GDD is tough, tiring, and a basket of disappointment.

While I can’t blame my kid of his condition, I often blame myself for a lot of things. Is it in my DNA? Did we allow him to watch and play too much?

I often feel like a failure when I look at my child. But all these feelings are all for nothing because it will not help him.

Though I’m a fairly negative person, I want to remain optimistic on this one. It’s my child, simple as that.

Regardless of whether he recovers or not, I love him and will support him until my last breath.

His Little Brother

Damian is Tim’s little brother. This one seems to be a “normal” kid developmentally speaking.

Just two years old, and here I am feeling guilty again. I’ve been so focused on Tim that I’m neglecting Damian.

Not on purpose I’m sure.

But I seem to have a shorter fuse when dealing with him.

Truth is, Damian really pushes a few of my buttons. He’s really loud, he hits us, he plays with his milk. You know, what a regular kid usually does. But I can’t seem to give him slack like I do Tim.

Maybe in my narrow little head, I feel like he can understand, though, of course, he can’t.

I need to be better with Damian. I admit that I favor Tim over him for now. But that’s because Tim really needs help.

Damian also needs our help and guidance. I want to be a better father to both my kids. I love them both, but again, I’m only human.

Their Super Mum

My kids are lucky they have a mom like her.

She does everything in the house and she works as a full time social media manager, team leader, and writer.

I’m very lucky to have her by my side. She makes everything easier.

She is the heart and soul of this family.

While I have my head up in the clouds dreaming of investing, Internet Marketing, creating an authority site, she works her butt off into the night to fulfill her duties while the kids are sleeping.

She is a conscientious and hard working employee. Truly an inspiration to every home worker.

I just wish that I can pull my head out of my ass long enough to provide better for her and this family.

She gave up taking the bar this year to really focus on Tim and his therapy.

She basically gave up her dream of becoming a lawyer.

I just wish that I can put into words how much I appreciate her. Then again, if my fuse was short with Damian, it is even shorter with her.

My actions toward her and Damian is a reflection of my true character as a person. I’m volatile, easy to anger, and so very hard to please.

I realize this in introspect. I really do. And I want to be a better father, husband, and person.

If wishes were horses.

But no, everyone of us has flaws. Mine just stick out like a sore thumb. At least, that’s my perception of it all.

 

The Ups and Downs of Parenting My Son

Timothy is a wonderful child. He is 4 years old but delayed. He actually is not too far off when compared to his 2 year old brother.

The ups this week is that we are having a little bit of progress when it comes to exercising and accomplishing tasks. In addition, my sons had the time of their lives when we went to the park yesterday.

The down is that Tim seems to be getting violent tantrums. It started about 2 to 3 weeks ago. Like, when he doesn’t get what he wants, he throws stuff, or stomps his feet, or deliberately hits his head on the floor. He also tends to punch and kick both of us in not just one instance.

This is starting to bother us because time out doesn’t seem to be working. The increase of violent behavior seems to have started when we subtracted tablets out of his daily activity. This is just my hypothesis but it seems plausible, right?

I mean, take away something that has become a habit then the energy of the kid goes somewhere else?

We’ve really been suffering a little bit with his increase violent tendencies. It is even more distressing that he is willing to hurt us and himself to get what he wants.

Discipline of a Child

What we’ve learned in the parenting seminar is the ABC.

A – Antecendent
B – Behavior
C – Consequence

For example, Tim asks for milk. He does so by crying and stomping his feet. If we give him milk then we encourage this behavior.

Simply put, Tim will think that crying and stomping his feet, as a behavior, will always yield him the milk as a consequence.

The thing that we can do when he is crying and stomping his feet is:

  • Ignore him to teach him that bad behavior will merit nothing
  • Praise the correct behavior
  • Punish the child for the behavior (we try to avoid light spanking as much as possible)

We try and will continue to try all the right tools to discipline Tim. We are only human so we can’t be expected to have the patience of Buddha.

Parenting is a firefight every minute. More so if your child has GDD.

We must continue with the uphill battle even if we are not even sure that we will win the fight.